How you deal with disappointment with yourself.
Sometimes you are going to ask someone to do something for you. Sometimes you'll put your faith in that person and sometimes they will let you down.
You'll feel many things.
Anger.
Frustration.
Disappointment.
But what you do with those feelings will be the most important tool you have when it comes to moving forward.
Ask yourself if you gave that person all of the information they needed to be successful, if you answered all of the questions they had, and really listened when they brought up concerns. If you did all of those things, you have a right to be disappointed, but if you were missing any, there is some culpability on your part.
Even if you have a right to be disappointed, be careful how you handle it. Think of times when you disappointed someone else. Did they make you feel awful? Did you feel like you were missing the tools to succeed? If so, chances are the person you want to have that serious talk with, may be having some or all of the same feelings.
When someone we hire or bring on a team doesn't perform the way we'd like them to, we have a golden opportunity to find out more about what is and is not working in our business model, our way of giving direction, and our managerial skills. Don't throw that all away, by just having a bad attitude.
No one is happy when things fall apart.
But taking the time to figure out why and trust the people you work with is the first step towards picking up the pieces.
Excelsior!
Great Post! Disappointment in the results of a project or venture is inevitable at some point.
It’s how you deal with it that separates high achievers from the rest.
Introspection and honest self-evaluation are part of the mix; clear & timely team communication is the straw that stirs the drink. Recognize there is a learning curve associated with almost any activity; resolve to advance upward on this curve steadily, leveraging experience and rarely repeating mistakes.
Posted by: Rich | February 05, 2013 at 12:16 PM