When I used to direct, a big part of my process involved having the actors do the scene all the way through with no interruptions. I then spent my time listening intensely to the way they took the scene. I didn't interrupt anyone. I just let them go all the way through. I then would ask the actors about what they wanted in each moment, what was getting in the way, how they felt etc.
Again, I would just listen.
When we started to get into the blocking, I would start making suggestions and asking questions, but at the heart of all of that was listening.
Do you see a pattern?
Good connectors listen.
When you are meeting with someone and thinking of connecting them, it is essential to find out what that person truly cares about. All too often we assume what the other person needs. This is just like giving your actors line readings.
You would never do it.
This week, there is a very good chance you will have the opportunity to connect with someone new. When you get that opportunity, ask how much listening you are doing. Are you paying close attention to what they need and care about? If not, think about how you can.
Great directors give actors autonomy and provide guidance.
Great connectors listen and make matchings based on what the other person cares about.